Do you ever have one of those days that you feel sorry for yourself? You feel stressed, sad, angry and depressed. No one can understand what you are going through and there is no light at the end of the tunnel? Sometimes it feels as if it is the end of the world and there is no tomorrow.
On those days I normally cry. About everything. My eyes get puffy and red, and my nose is blocked. The moment someone asks me if I am okay my mouth says yes, but the tears run down my cheeks. That is normally the days that you need to get up, dress up and show up.
That is the day that the terminally ill patient at work asks me if I am okay. Or a patient comes back with a soda for me just to say thank you (for doing a job that I am getting paid to do). Sometimes they give me a hug with tears in their eyes or ask me to pray with them.
I was once so tired after a difficult night with my healthy-but-not-sleeping baby, feeling so sorry for myself. My first patient was a little child with cancer already through the first cycle of chemotherapy, so friendly and positive. My heart wanted to break.
It is all about perspective.
I do believe there is a time and place for everything. Feel sorry for yourself, cry, be angry… But there is also a time to make a choice to lift up your head and be positive.
Here is how I try to accomplish that.
- Take a bubble bath.
- Talk to someone you trust. It should be someone who can listen to you with sympathy, but also be honest with you.
- Surround yourself with positive people.
- Have a chocolate… I might say a carrot or celery stick, but it just does not do the trick! And if one doesn’t work, have another one.
- Go window shopping.
- Look for promises in the Bible and pray.
- Play with the dog.
- Look for three things to be thankful for in your life.
- Help someone else.
- Watch a movie.
- Listen to music.
- Laugh! Look for little silly things to laugh about.
Life is not fair and in the end we just have to make the best with what we have. There are always people with fewer burdens to carry, but also with more. For me, it is all about perspective.